telephone dating trial code - Dating services for people in recovery
I think knowing on the front-end that someone is living sober and has/is working the steps would take that concern away from me and allow me to be more open and hopeful with the potential of the relationship.It would also be comforting for me to know that if I were to become involved with a fellow recovering alcoholic that he would understands the struggles and the work involved in living sober and it seems like having a partner in the program would make it so much better than working the program on your own! Kelly There are a couple of Recovery Singles sites out there, but I haven't joined.
I've often wondered if there would be much of a demand for an 12 Step Dating website, where singles in 12 Step programs could meet up with other 12 Step singles. When you think about at all the ways that singles typically meet; work, through friends and family, other online dating sites, and the infamous bar scene...well, you never really know what the drinking habits of a potential suitor might be (except for the bar scene and I know for certain that I'm not going down that road! For me to stay sober, I know that I wouldn't ever want to have a a dating or romantic relationship with a drinker again..if they weren't an alcoholic.
I know that down the road when I will be more interested in getting back into the dating world, I will definitely only want to get involved with a non-drinker.
Speaking from the standpoint of a single woman, I think a 12-step dating service is a good idea.
Well, since I'm a newbie, my opinion doesn't really count on this topic right now, but I'm always willing to put my 2-cents in.
Heck I even shared my own personal adventure which is one of those crazy relationship things. Maybe some night when I suddenly wake up at AM, my committee will have an emergency session where we can bring this matter up. Lordy all the stories of ex-wives and husbands and new husbands and wives, and boyfriends and girlfriends getting together and comparing notes - then they get together and play cards on Friday nights. I was thinking, it really has as much validity as E-Harmony, and other dating sites.
But you know my friends, I am willing to go to any length to get what you have, but there might be some things you have that I might not be all that happy to get. Recoveryingmates is one of the recovery singles sites. I too have gone to dances in recovery, and probably will go again at some point. Hi Dallas...i just stumbled on this topic...i know that a reply hasn't been posted for awhile..here goes my take on it...One of the most important things for me at this point, is to be very sure that anyone I date IS definintely working a solid program. How can you tell when two alcoholics are on there second date? I have been divorced for four years now and I work two jobs to take care of the home which i own and my 9 year old son.I mean does this idea of a 12-step dating site sound like a "sane" idea? How many lead stories have you heard where an ex-husband moves in with the ex-wife and her new boyfriend because the probation department needed the ex-husband to have some kind of "responsible" person without a criminal record vouch for him. At convention dances, I'm there to have a good time but not to take it serious like a dance partner might be a potential date or something.Lord have mercy, I'm deathly afraid of what kinds of crazy issues will come out of it. Lordy all the stories of ex-wives and husbands and new husbands and wives, and boyfriends and girlfriends getting together and comparing notes - then they get together and play cards on Friday nights. " I haven't had much personal experience with this -- but, I know that while I was living in the Southern California area, I often went to 12 Step Dances, because I knew I would meet other 12 Steppers there, and that the emphasis would be on sobriety... At the 12 Step Dances, I did meet other 12 Steppers and sometimes we would date -- and it turned out really great, because of our similar interests in life. Often, many of them are married or in relationships, and they, too, are just dancing for the fun of dancing and having a good time...Really - I'm not lying - I've heard these stories and more. Hey, they have personal ads in classifieds, AOL, Yahoo, Match, Craigs List, e Harmony, just to name a few of the thousands of sites that are set up to help a single person connect with a single person that has "like interests." How many of those sites have a selection of: "Are you a member of a 12 Step Program? I would much rather go see a movie or a concert, or a ball game, or a play, or on a date with someone else that had solid recovery characteristics. I guess a person could put a personal ad on a personals site and mention that they are 12 Steppers and prefer to meet and date other 12 Steppers, but that one profile might be buried in 100,000 other profiles.What I'm saying is that it seems like our lives as alcoholics are definietly good examples of "personal adventures before and after". How many lead stories have you heard where an ex-husband moves in with the ex-wife and her new boyfriend because the probation department needed the ex-husband to have some kind of "responsible" person without a criminal record vouch for him. However, my eyes are trained not to look for or at others as "prospective dates" in A. Why not make it easy for 12 Steppers to find other 12 Steppers that are interested in dating? Dallas You know, I was out and about today, and while I was driving, I thought about this topic.