No cattiness like you find on some women’s forums; no judging; no snipping at each other. Especially since I left my first moms’ group in my area under less than ideal circumstances.

So, I recently found my way onto a nation-wide moms board, where right on the front page you can choose your geographical area to connect with local moms. Sure, I can’t go to most playdates, lunch dates, etc.

But I can get to know some women in my area, since all my friends are military and leaving me.

Maybe I can hang out with them sometime, maybe even make a friend or two.

For the first couple of months I was on the site, I was pleasantly surprised by the lack of drama.

The moderator stepped in several times, all to her stress and no avail; the site’s rules do not allow her to simply delete a post, unless the user requests it.

So there it sits, ugliness in all its stinky glory, the hate-filled words and derision writhing around in my stomach like a bunch of grubs. However, I enjoy conversing with people who have different views from me, if stated appropriately and not angrily or defensively, because that way I learn things about myself, about other people, and sometimes about how to see the world through someone else’s eyes.

I don’t always gravitate toward like-minded thinkers; while easy, it’s also boring.

I don’t mind people calmly stating their opinion on heated topics like gay rights, abortion, breast feeding, or daycare.

But I truly hate ugliness, and there’s not much in this world that I waste energy hating.